Thursday, July 7, 2011

Friends with Benefits

Spoiler alert: I'm pretty sure I know how the new Justin Timberlake Mila Kunis movie ends. I'm going to go on a limb and say that after years of being regular friends, and a few random, innocent hook ups, the two of them will realize that they've had feelings for each other all along and will utter those three magic words, "I love you," and share a long, sloppy kiss as the credits roll. That sounds like the perfect way to begin a relationship...if you live on the silver screen and not in the real world. While Hollywood likes to romanticize the idea of having sex with no strings attached, in reality, it very rarely works out. Someone almost always winds up hurt, and it's more than likely the woman in the relationship. I've seen it time and time again. Woman meets man. Woman and man share a physical attraction for each other. Man tells woman he's not looking for a relationship, but he still wants to sleep with her. They become friends with benefits and everything is fine until A. The woman catches feelings or B. The man finds a woman with whom he has a vested interest and now the friends with benefits relationship has to come to an end. Now the woman friend is left to pick up the pieces and wonder why she never transitioned from being his "friend with benefits" to his girlfriend. Part of it, is because by entering into this Friends with Benefits type of relationship, you in essence, agreed to be The Wet Hole. You basically let him know that he can come and go (PUN TOTALLY INTENDED) as he pleases. He's mentally moved you from prospective girlfriend to late night booty call. And from my experience, once a man categorizes you, it's hard to switch lanes. Bottom line, there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying (safe) sex with no strings attached, if that's really all you want but women, please be honest with yourselves.If you want more, let it be known up front because not everyone is going to end up as lucky as Mila Kunis.

1 comment:

  1. My honey and I started out as FWB. We've been together over 2yrs already. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes it doesn't.